Two months of parenthood have already flown by, and yet remembering that first night when we brought Grant home from the hospital – frazzled, trading off holding him during dinner with my mom and dad, John sleeping on the floor of the nursery to give me some rest – seems like forever ago. For this reason, I’m glad I’m recording these early months of his life, even if it’s mainly to capture these moments for me to look back on and remember.
It’s interesting writing the Month 2 recap a week after the official two month mark because in the past week things have already gotten much easier. I had heard weeks 6-8 are rough with growth spurts and napping problems, and this was the case for us — combined with anxiety if I was “doing everything right.” I have a reflective blog post on this aspect of motherhood that I will post soon, but the bottomline is that my friend Kelley was correct in telling me that all new moms need to learn to give themselves grace.
This month’s recap instead focuses on the day-to-day and the immense joys that the Grantman brings to our lives… (FYI, click on the photos to view them larger.)
Wake-up between 6:30-7:30am. (If he wakes up before 6am, I feed him, put him back down to sleep, and then wake him up at 7:30am to start our day. If he wakes up around 6am, I make him wait until 6:30am to eat– though those 30 minutes are tough trying to soothe him (and I’d much rather get the day started then waiting too), waiting until 6:30am allows him to naturally readjust to our schedule for the day.)
As an aside– big news that Grant slept all through the night (8pm-7:30am on February 1st — in fact, I had to wake him up at 7:30am to start our day)! Since then, he’s slept through the night five times, primarily from 8pm-6:15am. He typically wakes up only once at night around 4am for a feeding.
7:30-8:30am Feed and then play
Grant is starting to love tummy time. He is rolling over to the left and right from his tummy to his back when his arms are out in front of him. When his arms are behind him on his tummy, he has learned how to get his left arm up and in front but not his right. He is mesmerized by his Baby Einstein Sea Dreams Soother, lifting his head up to watch the lights and listen to the music.
He still loves his activity mat too and is more purposeful in trying to hit the animals. It is so cute to watch him get excited when all of the animals are swinging around him.
8:30am-10ish Nap. It cracks me up that even if he’s slept 11 hours, by 8:30am he’s ready for a nap, signaling me with his whiney, tired cry.
He used to sleep a solid 2 hours for most of his naps, but around 7 weeks he began waking up 30 minutes in. All of my mom friends have experienced this, and apparently it’s called the “45 minute intruder” where babies wake up in the REM cycle and haven’t learned to go back to sleep by themselves. All of the advice says to let them cry it out for 15-2o minutes before going in to soothe them, and to repeat this process until they’ve “slept” 1 1/2 hours. Let me tell you — this is hard. It is so painful to hear our little guy cry. I talked to our doctor, and she suggested starting in 5-10 minute increments, and this has worked much better for me. Finally after a couple weeks, he is starting to put himself back to sleep by himself after fussing for a few minutes (fingers crossed, this continues!). I am also starting to be able to tell whether he’s wide awake and just ready to be out of the crib or hungry. This is not the case all of the time, and the hardest days are when I have no idea why he is crying. Cue the mommy tears on these days.
10:30am Feed and then play.
11:30am-1pm-ish Nap. On some days, we’ll go for walks with friends, run errands etc. so he’ll sleep in the car seat/stroller.
1:30pm Feed and then play.
4:30 Feed: We are following the Moms on Call book/schedule and this is considered a non-negotiable feed time. No matter what happens in the day, i.e. I’m feeding him every 2 hours during a growth spurt, you feed at this time. This is to ensure that there are 3 hours before the bedtime feeding so that one will be the biggest/best feeding. (The other non-negotiable are the wake-up time/feeding and bedtime feeding.)
5-7pm Play/hang out in bouncer while we eat dinner/Cat nap
Towards the end of this time, Grant will start to get fussy. To stretch him until bath/bedtime, we have discovered that he loves music. In particular, he loves the Baby Einstein Take Along Toy — John will dance around with him to the music, which instantly calms him down.
7:15pm Bath time! Grant now LOVES the bath. Even if he is crying loudly and very hungry, as soon as we bring him upstairs and start undressing him for the bath, he calms down. Then when we put him in the water he is so content like he could stay there for hours!
7:30pm Nighttime feeding
8pm Bedtime: John and I have a routine that after the bath we put him in his sleep sack, sing him a lullaby, and say a prayer before putting him in the crib.
- Sleeping through the night (see above!)
- Tracking us with his eyes. He has started following us out of the room when he put him in his crib, making it hard to leave if he’s crying. (Sometimes he needs to cry for 5-8 minutes when we put him down for a nap and then he falls fast asleep.)
- Starting to grab things more, i.e. my hair but also some toys that have rings.
- He loves music (see above!)
- When he is very fussy, the one go to that almost always works is what we call “Bouncy Bounce.” He straightens his legs like he’s standing and then he bends his knees. When he straightens them again, we lift him up in the air. I can’t wait until he has the head control to use an actual jumper by himself, since Bouncy Bounce is an excellent arm workout!
- His main nicknames include: Grantman, Buddy Boy, and Bud Buds
- And the best… Smiling!!! He started smiling on our first family trip to North Carolina, and it melts our hearts every time. After I feed him, I’ll prop him up on my lap and make funny faces, and he’ll break out in a huge grin. He also smiles a lot on his activity mat and when other people are over, oohing and awwwing over him… either he’s going to be an extravert or just loves the special attention!
Weight: 10 lbs 5 oz (12%) — still a skinny guy
Length: 23.25 inches (68%) — he really jumped in this category from last month! His torso is very long so he is wearing 3 month clothes, but the pants are still all too long for him.
Head Circumference: 15 inches (22%)