This season has been a particularly busy one for John and me as we navigated my start to school and John’s increased responsibilities at work. Clearly this busyness is a result of good things in our life, but it feels busy nonetheless. An important principle that John and I try to consistently incorporate into our marriage is to not take ourselves too seriously. When life is busy, it can be tempting to only focus on what must be done. To bring the big picture back into view, we’ve started having regular dates… at the soccer field!
Neither John and I are soccer players. I think he played for a season in first grade, and my soccer career was a bit longer from second through sixth grade. We obviously do not have the fundamentals of dribbling, passing, or shooting down. However, we got into the World Cup as a sport that we both enjoyed watching, and one Sunday this summer we saw a soccer ball on sale for $18 at Dicks Sporting Goods. There happens to be a nice, public soccer field a few minutes from our house so we tested out our soccer skills that afternoon. Well, we ended up having such a blast that we’ve consistently gone back about once a week!
Even in the busiest of weeks, we’ll head to the field after work and practice passing back and forth to each other, taking shots on goals, and doing penalty kicks. Who knows if we’ll join an actual league some day, but right now it’s a fun sport that we can both play together… and goof off since neither of us really know what we’re doing!
Also, even though the field is close to our house, we drive the few minutes together so we can jam out to music. Picture this: my yellow Xterra, windows down, the latest Crowder album up full blast, and us singing very loud (and probably off key)! We arrive at the soccer field with no cleats or shin guards but ready to have an hour hanging out together.
Here’s how soccer has put a “kick” (get it?!) into our marriage:
- Allows us to have fun doing something new together
- Lets us not take ourselves too seriously because it’s new and neither of us really knows what we’re doing
- Creates opportunities to be silly together and get out of our routine
What does this mean for your marriage or relationship?
Find a sport or hobby that you both enjoy doing but neither one is an expert in because it’s about just having fun together. Make time in your week to go out and do that sport or hobby and be silly. Even in the busiest of seasons, laughter is guaranteed to put a kick into your marriage too!